If you think about it, it’s rarely the question that is annoying. It is the manner in which the question is asked. I have somehow developed, without actually trying, the ability to read micro expressions. It has its benefits, but it also comes with drawbacks. I love when I can join a conversation that it sincere. Eyes connect, interest is evident. Conversely, there are those that feign interest with empty words that are accompanied by darting eyes, pursed lips, etc. You know on the spot, that not only does this person care about the question they just asked, they are not even listening to your answer.
In the past, I have answered deeply personal questions, with deeply personal answers because the read I received from that person was one of general concern and interest. It has happened with people I know very well, and it has happened with complete strangers (though in the latter case, it doesn’t happen often, and even I am surprised until I recognize that I have just had an interaction with a truly empathetic soul).
In contrast, if you ever hear me respond to a question with, “I’ll have to really give that some thought. I’ll get back to you.” That’s me saying “I know you don’t care, so I am not going to give you one more minute of attention. Go to wherever your darting eyes have deeper interest”.
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